Sometimes you’re going to feel stuck in your battle, you’ll need two rocks to hide behind one just in front of the other so you can go from one to another. Let’s move forward. That’s why bonus three is your rock. How do you do it? Let me tell you the story of Donald Lawrence from the book, my voice will go with you. He’s six feet six inches tall, doesn’t have an ounce of fat on his body. He’s been practicing the shotput for a whole year every night. It hasn’t improved. He can only throw it 58 feet which is way less than the record. And the high school contest is two weeks away. So Donald’s dad brings him to see the famous hypnotherapist Milton Erickson. after just two weeks, Donald Lawrence sets a national high school record. Later that year, he wins a bronze medal at the Olympics at 18 years old. Four years later, he wins a gold medal at the next Olympics and another gold medal at the Olympics after that. What did Milton Erickson tell him? He asked him if he knew that for many years, nobody could run a mile faster than four minutes. But then Roger Bannister broke that record how Erickson says that Roger Bannister realized that a four minute mile is 240 seconds. So Bannister thought if I could run a mile in 239 and five tenths of a second, I would break the four minute mile. He stopped thinking in minutes and started thinking in 10s of seconds. After thinking that through he broke the four minute mile. So Milton Erickson tells Donald that he is already thrown in the shot 58 feet far. And he says Donald, tell me honestly, do you think you know the difference between 58 feet and 58 feet and one 16th of an inch? Donald says Of course not. And they go back and forth adding tiny increments like that over time. And with this change in thinking Donald breaks the National High School record two weeks later. There’s also another story of Erickson helping a woman get over claustrophobia he puts her or asks her if she’ll go in the closet and she goes in the closet. And he says Would you mind if instead of the door being wide open, it’s wide open except for one 16th of an inch. And they just keep closing the gap more and more and more until she gets over her fear. So again, they started thinking in terms of fractions of inches and millimeters and not feet and meters. It’s kind of like they needed to roll a ball from the top of Mount Everest to the bottom of Basecamp over 19,000 feet. But they didn’t think about the 19,000 feet didn’t even think about the first 1000 feet. It’s as if all they told themselves is start the ball rolling. And I know there’s at least one area of your life that you feel a massive gap between where you are and where you want to be. But the problem is that standing at the top of Everest, and looking at the huge gap between the top and the bottom is intimidating. It’s paralyzing. It’s crippling, so you feel unmotivated, you tell yourself that you’ll never get there. But what if instead of thinking about the gap, you started only thinking about the next millimeter, you’re wanting to be in way better shape than you are. What’s the smallest tiniest change you can make right now that will move you in that direction. you’re wanting to start your business, what’s the smallest tiniest change you can make right now that will move you in that direction? you’re wanting to get your kid? Yes, your kid that can’t sit down to do even five minutes of homework to start doing all their homework. What’s the smallest tiniest change you can make right now that will move you that direction? I call it the rolling ball question. Whenever you’re stuck in any area of your life, what’s the smallest tiniest change I can make right now that will move me in that direction. On a similar note, here are two other questions that will serve you really well on your journey. As we wrap this up together, they might be worth writing down. Question. One is what would this look like if it were easy? So there’s something you can’t get yourself to do? Ask yourself, what would this look like? If it were easy? Because the easier and simpler you can make something, the more likely you are to get it done. Stop worrying about adding all those steps you’ve added to make it perfect. First, keep it easy and get it done. What would this look like if it were easy? And the second question is what would happen if I didn’t do this? There are so many things that we’d like to do that just don’t move the needle forward in our lives in any way. There are things that are nice to do. But if we wanted to do all the things that are nice to do in our lives, we’d feel overwhelmed and totally lost. In fact, I’d say that this is a big reason that many people do feel overwhelmed and lost. And you can get over that with this question what would happen if I didn’t do this? So write these questions down, maybe taped them on your desk and ask yourself these questions often make some habits with the smallest tiniest change I can make right now that will move me in that direction. What’s the smallest tiniest change that will move me that direction, right? Second is what would this look like if it were easy? What would this look like if it were easy? And third one say twice again, is what would happen if I didn’t do this? What would happen if I didn’t do this?