Upheaval

Welcome to the next lesson in the burnout series. And for this one, the letter U in burnout stands for upheaval. When you’re burned out in life, your life feels upside down. You’ve lost all control of every aspect of your life, not just physically, but mentally. Your thoughts, your behaviors, the lack of motivation. All of these things play a huge part in burnout and when you’re in a burned out state, it’s a challenging situation for many. You literally feel like you’re upside down. And for many people that have burned out, including myself, this is what most days felt like. Everything was just completely out of sorts. You’d never had an opportunity to get anything Right. You felt lost, discouraged, angry, fatigued, tired, wanting to escape criminal, and you don’t want to do anything anymore. You’re getting stressed from everywhere. Your work, life is horrible. Your home life isn’t good. Your friends aren’t hanging out with you as much because you’re not a nice person to hang out with. Or you don’t want to hang out with them because you don’t feel encouraged to do anything. Now, if you’re not familiar with my story, I’ll share parts of it throughout this course, all the full story eventually but the reason why I show the Widowmaker is when I had my burnout journey. I had a heart attack and 2009 and I had to blockages in the left anterior descending order. in cardiology world, they refer to that artery is the Widowmaker. Because if you have a blockage in that artery, and you have a heart attack, there’s a distinct possibility that you were going to die. Thankfully, I didn’t, I’m still here. And my heart is as healthy as ever. I go for checkups every couple of years. And my cardiologist is overall pleased with my health and, and the health of my heart, which I’m very fortunate because many people unfortunately, when they do have a heart attack, part of their heart will die. Thankfully, that did not happen to me. So my heart is doing well and beating as it should. Now, that heart attack was the kickoff of what I refer to as my your worst case scenarios were in 2009. I had the heart attack that should have killed me, but didn’t And then 17 weeks later after recovering from that heart attack, I was let go from my job. Now in 2009, in North America, we were going through a pretty bad recession. So there weren’t a lot of jobs available and in the area that I was in, there definitely wasn’t a lot of jobs available. So it took me a long time to find a new job, which required a relocation from a small community to an area with over 7 million people. Quite an adjustment period for for the entire family. I show this vehicle now after I found a new job and relocated the family, I was commuting between the town that we were living in and Toronto, Ontario. And during the first few weeks of my role, our family vehicle which is pictured here, was repossessed by the bank because whatever happens when you get let go from a job, you don’t have health insurance coverage anymore. And that also includes drug coverage. And when you have a heart attack, congratulations, you get to take heart medication, and a bunch of it to the point where my medications were costing roughly $1,000 a month. That’s a lot of money to be spending on pills, and where you could use that money to pay car payments and mortgage payments and food and things you like to do. But now, here’s $1,000, you’d have to allocate it to medications that you now need to take because you’re a cardiac patient. So when you can’t pay your bills because you have to buy medication. Well, the likelihood of the bank calling and wanting payment will come to a point where they’re tired of calling. Yeah. They’ll just send the tow truck and tow the vehicle away. It was, you know, definitely a very difficult situation to see that happen. Thankfully we had another vehicle in the family but it’s never fun to see the bank take away the vehicle that you that you love to enjoy driving. Yeah, then there was this one. Just to summarize everything over a period of a year or 369 days, I had the heart attack that should have killed me. I lost my job during the economic recession. The family car which you just saw a picture of was repossessed. And then finally the home that we were living in for several years was foreclosed by the bank. Again, you’re spending $1,000 a month on insurance and you’re not working or $100,000 a month on drugs and you’re not working. It’s hard to pay bills. We worked with all of our creditors, and that’s something I always encourage people to do is if you are having financial difficulties, communicate with your creditors, let them know what’s going on. They are flexible, and our bank, or the banks were flexible for a period of time. But eventually, that flexibility ran out and they wanted to get payment for the agreement that we had. And when we weren’t able to make those payments, they had every right to do what they did. So homeless foreclosed. Those are some significant losses individually, add them all together, heart attack, job loss, carry possession home foreclosure all in here. And you know, what was the reason for all of those things? My burnout. My burnout got me into that situation. The burnout created the heart attack, the burnout, and making bad decisions cost me my job. The burnout and not having a job caused us to lose A vehicle and a home. That’s why I’m so passionate about fighting burnout. That’s why I’m so passionate. And I get really upset. When I see people in a burnout state because I know what can happen. It can be catastrophic. It can then marriages, it can end your life. It can end your job, your financial future. It’s a disaster. And it’s all preventable. When your life is in upheaval, your life is upside down. And what causes your life to be upside down the choices you make, and there’s consequences with the choices you make. If you’re going through life, just on autopilot, and not paying attention to the signs of burnout, and the things that you’re doing. It can be really catastrophic. You too could have a year of worst case scenarios and I don’t want that for anybody. spat enough I had to go through it. I definitely don’t want it to happen to you. Too often in life, we’re asleep at the wheel. We’re not paying attention. I wasn’t paying attention to what led up to my burnout and my own year of worst case scenarios. I wasn’t paying attention. I was fighting through it. I was irritable. I was not paying attention to anybody. And I stopped living my life, the way that I should have been living it, and it created a huge, huge challenge for me and my family. burnout is a choice. Now that may not be a popular opinion, but it’s true. Your choices, your behaviors, the patterns in life that you follow, create scenarios. If you’re not taking care of yourself, if you’re not focusing on self care, if you’re not taking care of yourself, both mentally, physically, if you’re spiritual, spiritually, you’re ignoring those things. Try and take shortcuts through life and I Pay attention to the warning signs you could burn out. And that is something you don’t want to have happen in life. I don’t want it for you or for anybody else. So, closing exercise for you, is I want you to look at your life and think about it for a bit. And think of areas where life feels upside down and write them down in a journal. And we’ll work on this in a future exercise.