Unhappy

Welcome back, everyone. The next section in the burnout course, is for the letter U, which stands for unhappy. Another review in case you jumped to the section first, or can’t spell. burnout is a state of emotional physical and mental exhaustion that is caused by excessive and prolonged stress in your life. It occurs when you feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and unable to meet the constant demands of life. We’ve seen people that are unhappy, there’s no shortage of people in life that go through stages of life where they’re not as happy as they could be, or they could be really down and feel that life is beating them up. due to external circumstances, maybe self doubt. Maybe depression, anxiety, a variety of different causes. And what happens is when people are unhappy, that has a mental, mental and physical impact on their lives. When you’re unhappy, sometimes it’s caused by a lot of stress. And we’ve talked about this before, where stress coming at you from all angles over a prolonged period of time can lead to burnout. And there’s many people in every sector and every level of every organization that are facing extreme stressful times, and if it’s prolonged and lasts a long time, then they’re going to be burning out and when you’re burned out, your life as you know, it is not the same. You don’t feel good, you hate a lot of things. And you can be a happy go lucky person and all of a sudden Be really irritable and not a nice person to be around. And that’s a big warning sign for you. And for those that are around you, that something is not right, and you need to do something about it. There’s many causes to be unhappy. But I see a lot with people that are burned out that they’re not happy with themselves. They’re not where they thought they would be in life. They don’t like their job. So they bounced around to different jobs, thinking it’s going to be different. And unfortunately, in many cases, it’s not necessarily the job. It’s how you approach your work and what your expectations of work are and the level that you’re at, and all kinds of different things. But oftentimes, a lot of it is with how you feel and think and behave with your job. Same thing with family family is an interesting dynamic. I know many people that have had some dysfunctional families. And I would be willing to say that every family has dysfunction to certain degrees, some may be a little bit more extreme than others, from a point of view, of course. And when all of these things start joining together, you’re just so unhappy. And when you’re burned out, you don’t know why. Because there’s so much going on. And the stress has been going on for so long. You literally don’t know which way to look to figure out why am I not happy? Another big sign of burnout is a lack of motivation, or you just don’t like doing things anymore. With my own burnout journey. That led up to my year worst case scenarios in 2009. I was a mini season ticket holder for the Detroit Tigers. I lived in that area, and for several years went to Tiger games was fun. fortunate enough to catch them play and unfortunately lose in two separate World Series. I think back at that now and how fortunate I was to be able to go to not only one World Series game, but to in my life, there are countless people that are huge baseball fans that will never have an opportunity to go to a baseball game at all. But the World Series, it’s this is the two best teams in baseball that are playing for the World Championship. And I was able to go to and the first one, I was okay, I enjoyed the moment the second one, not so much. Because I had no motivation to go. I could go into the games. I love baseball. The earlier session I talked about baseball cards in my career. I love the sport of baseball, more than any other sport. I love sports in general, but baseball will always be my first I love and I enjoy it. I love the pace of it, there is no time clock. It goes, you can listen to it in the background, or you can go to the game and enjoy the, the ambience of the crowd and everything else. But I was motivated to not go or lack the motivation to go. And there’s lack of motivation in so many other areas of my life too. And that’s something you have to look at. Are there things that you love doing that you’re not doing right now, because you don’t feel like doing it. That’s a huge red flag for you to take a look at. I’ve said this before, when you’re burned out. You’re often numb to everything. You just don’t care. And you’re basically disinterested in every aspect of your life. Because you’re tired of the pain. You’re tired of the stress. So you just kind of give up and you’re just numb. And that’s no way to live life you’re supposed to experience life. Life is such a vibrant thing that you need to take on and if you’re burned out, you’re not enjoying life. And it’s unfortunate that that happens. And there’s ways to get back. But when you’re burned out, you don’t see that. And sleep is crucial. Our bodies, repair ourselves when we sleep. So if you’re not getting restful sleep, then your body is not repairing itself. So then the next day’s damage gets piled on to yesterday’s damage and over a prolonged period of time, guess what, you’ll fiscal problems, your body won’t break down things as it should, if you’re not eating properly, then your arteries could clog up and you could have a cardiac event like I did. It’s not fun, I’m not going to go into the gory details of the surgical procedure to put the stents in my artery. And just in case you didn’t know they have to go inside of you to place those stents in a very small artery. And it was not the most pleasant experience and I’ll leave it at that. But if you don’t, so If you don’t get good rest, that’s going to take a toll on your body. in your journal, what I want you to do now is I want you to identify the parts of your life that you’re unhappy about right now. list them all out and be robust with this list. Just be honest with yourself, this is your journal. Don’t be judgmental to yourself. Please don’t. I probably should have said that in earlier sections. Please don’t be judgmental. Just be factual about what’s going on with life right now for you. Because that will help you guide your way out of a burned out state and get you back to the life you deserve to live.