Understanding Fear

Hello there, have you ever felt weak in the knees or sick to your stomach? When you’ve had to give a speech of some sort in front of a public audience? If so, you are not alone. Most people are afraid of public speaking. In fact, it is the number one type of communication that most people prefer to avoid. And you may have heard this joke comedian Jerry Seinfeld and he said that if at a funeral, most people would prefer to be in the casket then give the eulogy. And really that’s not far off. There’s been so many studies done about people that just don’t feel well and prefer not to give a public speech. So what I am going to address are tools and tips to help you or anyone overcome the fear of public speaking and learn how instead to feel more confident and actually perhaps look forward to giving a speech. In front of a live audience, it can happen. So I invite you to dive in and and hopefully you will learn some great tips that can help you or anyone you know. So the first thing I want to point out is that don’t be afraid of fear. It’s really not bad fear isn’t bad, it can motivate you to do well. And it can be managed and prevented using a few simple techniques. Fear Itself can actually elicit that drive and inspiration needed in order to do what is necessary so that you do deliver a great speech. And so we are going to talk about what some of those things are and how you can manage that fear in a way that you will feel feel a lot more confident in when giving a speech. So let’s address Some of the reasons why people are fearful. Well, the biggest thing is doubts. People are afraid because they have various doubts. And we’re going to talk about how you can squash those doubts because usually, or probably those doubts are unrealistic, and most of them begin in your head. In other words, they’re only in your mind that you create and are actually not real. So let’s talk about those. So, the first fear that people have and this might be you is tarnishing your credibility. So a lot of people are afraid that by giving a speech, it won’t go as well as they had hoped. And that can negatively affect how people view them their credibility. My they might be worried how whatever they have to say if it doesn’t go well, it might affect the company they work for, perhaps others they might be representing. Maybe they’re giving an introductory speech for a professional, a very good friend, a relative, a loved one. And if they’re worried that if they don’t do it well, then that might somehow poorly affect that person or organization. Another fear is speaking too quickly or quietly. And so me These are real fears, but some people are just afraid that they won’t be able to speak well, and that they might speak Oh, at a normal, comfortable pace with someone they know. But perhaps when they get they have fear, they might tend to speak too quickly, or they’re not confident in what they have to say. And that can result in speaking too quietly so that people can’t hear them. Another fear is sounding stupid. I mean, nobody wants to come across as not being competent. And so people might have that low confidence. about themselves that they may come across as just not very knowledgeable of what they are talking about. And that can apply to how they look to people might be afraid that they are being judged with whatever they’re wearing how their hair looks, whatever it is. Another fear that people have is that their speech will be boring. And so there’s a lot of ways to prevent that from happening. And, and so we’ll we’ll briefly touch on on those kinds of things, so that you can make your topic anything but boring. And the good thing about that fear actually, is that if you are afraid that your speech is going to be boring, then you can change that you can make it so that is interesting to your audience. And, and so there’s various ways to address that as well. Another thing is forgetting very common fear. People are afraid that when they get in front of an audience, they’re going to forget Get what to say. And then that, of course can lead to coming across stupid and maybe worried about their credibility, etc. And then one of the last main fears is rejection. So people might perhaps they’re proposing to get agreement from an audience to do something maybe there, they want people to believe in what they have to say. And they are worried that they won’t be able to achieve that and that they will get that rejection. So these are really the six most common types of fears. There’s a lot out there you may know of some others but the good thing about all of these spheres is they can be prevented. And if they crop up when you are giving a speech, they can be managed as well so that you don’t have these kind of feelings.