Strategies to Manage Nerves: Part B

Okay, so I’m gonna I put this up again, because it’s just important to give yourself a pep talk. But not only before, as I described, but also while you’re on stage to write when you get up to sage, just give yourself maybe one final pep talk like it’s okay. You don’t say this out loud, okay? But you can think it in your mind. Just think it’s going to be okay. It is okay, I’m going to do great. It’s going to be a very good experience, and people will like my presentation and I will feel good about it. So just it doesn’t have to be that long. Just a little some kind of a message that’s positive that you say to yourself. Alright, another strategy is to pause. You may be speaking too quickly, as some people do when they get nervous. Maybe you’re speaking To quietly, maybe you feel like you just can’t get the words out, maybe you actually have forgotten what to say next. So take that opportunity just to stop, just pause, don’t say anything, you can look down. And that act, and then look back up, look at the audience and continue on the act of pausing is good for everybody all around for the audience. It’s great because it gives them an opportunity to really synthesize and absorb what you’ve had to say up to this point. It gives them a break, every mind needs a break. That keeps most people can only retain so much information without any break. And so it’s helpful for the audience. It’s also a way to engage your audience because having that pause in there it gives them a break to justice. And think about what was said, and then perhaps look forward to what’s coming forward. It can help you to break that momentum of whatever is causing you the anxiety or experience that you don’t want. So it gives you an opportunity to collect your thoughts and then continue on. I don’t recommend saying hums and ahhs, or any of those filler words during the pause the pause really should just be a silence and not very long. Obviously a five minute pauses like more than it’s like a break, not a pause, but just a brief pause. Okay, now, if you speak really quickly, try to slow down and you may or may not catch yourself doing that. If you typically speak really fast, then I recommend practicing your speech as much as you can before you give your speech if possible. record yourself have someone else be your audiences practice sessions that they can give you feedback so you can then know how you speak. If you tend to speak too quietly, too loudly, too quickly, too slowly, what have you. So it’s good to know those things in advance so that you can work on improving them. Now, another great technique is to move around. Sometimes people when they’re afraid and they get on stage, they, they, they stand as if they are a statue. Well, that not only can be boring, and but it can also cause one to feel more of those feelings of anxiety. So if you move around that energy that gets released in your body, those endorphins can pick up and that can give you more energy, you can just feel better about yourself and move in it can be very engaging to your audience to it requires them some activity, even if it’s just looking at you moving around. So There is that movement, not too much don’t paced back and forth like a caged lion, but just a little bit onstage. It just it can relax you and it can relax your audience and really just overall can make it more engaging and interesting. Okay, getting active now, if you are able to do this, maybe you enjoy doing some kind of physical fitness. Try to keep up with that routine before you get on stage. If you’re not, don’t worry, but I do recommend perhaps just a feeling charged before you get on the stage before you give a presentation. So if you can maybe it’s just go for a walk for a few minutes before you get on that stage or in the morning, get up and do some type of physical activity. Just to get your mind working. Get your body working so that you feel and in in better form than if you had not done that. Now again, make sure you focus on your audience. So, if you are onstage in front of that audience and you are feeling those jitters try to think about your audience take the focus off of you. And think of the right look at them. look people in the eye. Think about how can you help them what can you do to make make their life better? But how can your message be valuable to them? And these are humans think it means get that authenticity, that being authentic and being sincere in your message? Do you focus on your audience you take the focus off of yourself, and you don’t think about yourself, you’re just you’re just doing and that can come across so much more positively and and productively for you. And so before you get on stage, get calm, relax, if you can. Maybe just do a quick couples stretching exercise. sizes maybe have a some tea if you like that maybe meditation people sometimes do that before they get onstage that can be helpful. Whatever works for you. If you know ways and tricks and things that calm you then apply that before you’re going to give a speech. Okay, so here are some suggestions on what to do. And you can do this before just before you get on again, before you give your your presentation. You might be able to do it during your presentation. One is to clinch the muscles. You can try it right now as you’re listening to this. So go ahead and give it a try. Tighten your your your grip, take both hands one hand and tighten it as high as tight as you possibly can. All that for a few seconds and then let go. Okay. You can do that. With your feet too, so give it a try. Grip your toes as tight as you can and your feet, really tighten that whole foot, hold it for a few seconds and then let go. So that is can be just a quick way of relaxing your muscles over our overall. You could even do with your whole bodies, tighten everything your hands, your feet, if you just be aware of tightening all muscles in your body as as much as you can. Hold it for a few seconds and then let go. Now, if you are addressing in a live audience and they all eyes are on you, you can do that silently and such as clenching your feet. Make sure that you’re not going to fall over when you’re doing that but tighten your toes or you know, maybe just one foot at a time. And when you first get begin your presentation to do that if you are feeling nervous Another thing people might be able to do is to stretch. Now, I’ve actually seen speakers who incorporated this activity into their speech. And it came across as if it really was part of their speech. And the motive was maybe something different than what the speaker had intended. And so I’ve seen where a speaker maybe they were usually giving a longer speech and they say, Hey, you know, I, let’s everybody stand up and just raise your hands up high, and stretch from side to side, or stand up if you can, you can do it from your chair and read your hands down to your feet. And just a brief few of those exercises and then they just continued on. Some people didn’t even explain why they were doing it. They just continued on. And so that was a great pause or great quick break, strategy way of engaging everyone. And resetting and then getting going. So it