Score Your Relationships

Now let’s talk about appraising your relationships. How are your 10 primary wealth areas affected by each of these types of relationships? Now, if you talk to different coaches, or psychologists or thought leaders, they’ll tell you that there are multiple dimensions to your life. Now, they won’t always agree on all of them. And I’m not looking to make an argument or a case specifically for these 10, you might have a slightly different 10 that you think are the dimensions of your life. But Put simply, what is trying to be communicated is that there’s more than one dimension. It’s not just about money. It’s not just about time off, there’s multiple areas. And so when you’re in an awesome relationship, chances are each of these areas of your life, spirituality, family, romance, friends, health, fun, finance, career growth, and giving All of these areas, chances are have either a an in between or a positive in some small amount or high amount of an impact on your life. By definition, a mediocre relationship probably doesn’t impact these areas much at all. And a bad relationship impacts these areas negatively. So, as I look to evaluate the relationships I’m in, I’m gonna look to see how does each of these relationships impact these different areas. And the way I’m going to do that is I’m just going to simply indicate that every time one of these areas is impacted positively by relationship, I’m going to put a plus sign or a plus one. If it’s not impacted at all, or in any significant way and zero. And if it’s impacted in a negative way, I’m going to put a negative one. And once I write out the numbers for each of those, I’m going to total up and put a number on each of these relationships that can be anywhere from a plus 10 in my most awesome relationships, mediocre relationships so you can be closer to a zero. And my worst relationships are going to be closer to a negative 10. So here are some examples of what might look like. And relationships can include organizations that could conclude your relationship with God, if you believe there’s a God, specific people, whatever it might be. But let’s look at the first one here. Let’s say you have friends you go drinking with, and again, not looking to make a judgement one way or another on this. But if you look at the dimensions of your life, you might say, Well, that doesn’t really do much for my spiritual dimension, or my family or my romance. It improves my life with my friends, it hurts my health. It improves my fun, perhaps it hurts my finances, and it doesn’t do much for my career and my growth or giving. And so at the end of the analysis of that it’s zero. It’s really, it’s mediocre. It’s not great. It’s not horrible, but maybe there’s something that could be better if I have an awesome spouse Partners, somebody who supports me and helps me be a better version of myself, I might find that all of my areas are significantly impacted by that in a positive way. If I have a teacher that’s inspiring me, whether it is now or a mentor or somebody I grew up learning from, maybe that person doesn’t as much impact my family, or my romance or my friends, but they might still have a very positive impact on my life. And if I have a good relationship with the divine, if the divine exists, and if you believe that and that works for you, it happens to work really well for me. You might find I that’s in relationship that’s pretty awesome. When I invest time in that and I get present with that through prayer, meditation, go into services, whatever works for you. And then to use just a generic term, there’s certain people that just drain our energy, and maybe they don’t hurt us as much spiritually directly or our family or romance or friends. But they just drain our energy. They take away our health, I live for us, they make things less fun. Maybe they cost us money, either. They’re draining our energy, so we can’t be as productive or they’re just taking up our time or wasting our money. And so in each of these situations, trying to get clear of what a relationship is really worth, to me, in the sense of is it helping me or hurting me. And this is not to say, I’m some fancy person that everybody in the world has to bow down to me. I don’t happen to believe that anybody is better than I am, or anybody is worse than I am. Again, this is about whether or not this leads to your happiness, and the journey and the objectives you’re looking to achieve in the life you want to live. So, in this next exercise, what I’m gonna suggest you do is write down either the names or if you’re concerned people might see this write down maybe the initials or even just a codeword for five the worst relationships in your life. And for each of these, put a plus one or a minus one, or a zero on each of them, so that you can evaluate what are the score for each of these relationships. Feel free to pause the video or the audio now so you can do that. Next, think of five relationships that are kind of mediocre, they’re not really hurting you, but they’re kind of just there maybe, to a certain degree, they’re a waste of time. So you might say, Wait, my relationship with bad television is a mediocre relationship. It’s really kind of taken up my time. Go ahead and think of five of those, write them out and score them. And then now, think of your five best relationships. Write out the names of those groups or people and again, determine the scores for them. Take the time now to really get clear about what it is that’s awesome about those relationships. Because most of all in this area, this is going to help us to better create more of these types of relationships. And then finally, score any other relationship That you invest a lot of time in. So if you’ve done the first three groups, and you say Wait, there’s still a few people or groups that I spent a lot of time with. evaluate those as well and see how they score according to what is best for you as far as you can best understand