Element 2: Becoming Obsessional

So you now have your goals written and you’ve started to develop purpose. Now it’s time to start developing element number two obsession. Because if I were to ask you to reflect on your day yesterday, and asked you to tell me what you thought about, what would you say? How much of your time were you thinking about living your dreams and your goals? And how much were you thinking about random things or worse, thinking about how hard this task you don’t want to do is and why you need to force yourself to do it. You see, Dale Carnegie wrote a book called How To Stop worrying and start living. And he says in the book, that he’s being interviewed on a radio program one day, and the host asks him, what is the biggest lesson you’ve ever learned? Sounds like a hard question to answer. It wasn’t. He says, By far the most important lesson he’s ever learned is the importance of what we think he says in his book, I now know with a conviction beyond all doubt that the biggest problem you and I have to deal with in fact, almost the only problem we have to deal with is choosing the right thoughts. Similarly, Ralph Waldo Emerson said, a man is what he thinks about all day long. Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius once gave us eight words that can determine your entire destiny. Our life, is what our thoughts make it. And Brian Tracy says in the new psychology of achievement, that you are what you think about most of the time. Dale Carnegie says yes, if we think happy thoughts, we will be happy. If we think miserable thoughts we will be miserable. If we think fear thoughts, we will be fearful. If we think sickly thoughts, we will probably be ill. If we think failure, we will certainly fail. If we wallow in self pity, everyone will want to shine us and avoid us. And that brings us to one of the most important lessons in maybe in your entire life. It’s to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. Sounds simple, and doesn’t even sound that revolutionary. But if you’re honest with yourself, reflecting on your life, you’ll find that you haven’t been doing this, you think about how much a project is going to suck, or how tired you are to go to the gym, or how you’re mad at a certain person and want to get even with them. Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. And that’s why element number two to becoming the type of person who beats procrastination is obsession. It’s becoming obsessional about focusing on what you want in the good things you’ve done. Because when you’re focusing on how great it’s going to be to have the body you want the relationships you want, the money you want the career you want, the impact you want, the fulfillment you want, how much more motivated and inspired, are you to sit down and get to work? So how can you become obsessional about your goals, your purpose, your mission? How can you not only have goals on paper, but start to feel like a Roman Emperor who’s ready to stick their life on getting what they want? two things. First, Grant Cardone says in his book, The 10 x rule that one of the most important habits, he has his he rewrites his goals on paper every single morning and night. Similarly, Brian Tracy says that one of the most life changing habits you can pick up is to get a spiral notebook and to every morning, write the date on the top and to rewrite your goals from memory. Why from memory, because then you’re activating your brain to think about your goals, rather than just mindlessly rewriting something. Second, I was having a conversation with my friend Alex bonide, author of the awesome book, The third door, and I asked him, What did you do mentally to be able to follow through on achieving your dream of becoming the youngest best selling business author of all time, he says, It’s simple. I cared. He then goes on to give an example. He says that when he was a freshman in college, he had two goals. One was to get a 4.0. The other was to get a book deal. He says the second goal was a lot harder to achieve than the first and that he only achieved one of those goals. It wasn’t the first one it was the second one. He got that book deal. Why? Because he cared. He said yes, he wrote both of those goals down on paper, but the four point wasn’t really that important to him. Whereas the book deal meant the world to him, because I cared and I thought about it if all of us could just care about our goals. As much as Alex cared about that book deal. We’d all be a lot more likely to achieve what we want and a lot more likely to follow through on whatever we want to do. How do we do that? I thought of a simple, life changing exercise. It’s called Wix Wi Fi why I carry every morning after you rewrite your You then go to another page in your notebook, and you write on the top, why I care. And then you go on to list all the reasons you can think of from the top of your head of why you care about the goals that you wrote, write out everything you’re going to get if you get those goals like if losing 10 pounds is a goal. You write down how your husband or wife will look at you differently, how your kids will be proud of you for making that change and inspired. People that work will comment on how great you look how all the energy you’ll feel, and so on. You see everyone talks about writing down your goals, nobody talks about taking it a step further to tell you that you must also write down why you care about those goals. So every single morning, start your day with rewriting your goals on paper. And then on the next page, start writing why I care and all the reasons why you care. We write your goals and do your weeks every single day. This class isn’t about collecting more information. It’s about taking action. So get the ball rolling. Do your first time now rewrite your goals. Even if you don’t know what they are yet, just write down what you want. Then go to the other page and write why you care. If you do this regularly and are in touch with what you’re writing it you can’t do it and not change for the better.