Calibrate to Someone’s State

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Now calibration to somewhere safe refers to using our sensory awareness to detect the unique facets of another person’s mood or experience. So offhand, it does sound a bit similar to like pacing and as a person, but it goes a little bit, it’s a little different than that, because essentially, you’re not trying to so much see things from another person’s point of view. But you’re using it to kind of get an idea of how this person is feeling from their own standpoint. But from the outside, you’re kind of getting an objective viewpoint of how this person reacts to certain situations or circumstances. So just to give you an idea of like how to calibrate to some a state like one way we use calibration and NLP is to something called eye accessing cues. So accessing cues helps us find out which representational system a person is using while thinking. So for example, just to kind of go through real quickly, this is for someone desam, for if they’re right handed, for someone that’s left handed, these tend to be on the opposite side. So for someone that’s right handed, so somebody that looks them up toys, the left, this is for things that they visually Remember, this is for auditory remembered experiences. This is for internal dialogue for what a person is saying to themselves over here is kinesthetic. Over here is an auditory constructed, well, pretty much they’re asking themselves, like how does this sound is a sound right to me. And then you get to visually constructed now visually constructed that could either mean one of two things, either one day using your imagination, or two, they’re probably lying to you. So that’s usually one of those two things is but um, I’ve seen it depends on the context of the situation. But I assessing cues is just essentially a way a practical way Wus to calibrate to some a seat, just to get an idea of what’s kind of going on in their head, and how they using their body and the neurology. Now, we also can calibrate on besides I accessing cues, we can use other neurological signs such as breathing, the muscle tone, their physiology, the skin color, etc. All these things we can use to calibrate to some assays. So like I said, it’s not exactly the same as pacing, because, say, if someone’s breathing fast, you may not necessarily be fast per se, but you may use the breathing as a cue for you to get an idea of what this person is experiencing, and how they’re reacting to a certain situation or circumstance. Now, it’s also important to remember that everyone has heroes a home or her own unique way of experiencing and responding in a world. And I think this is very important to keep in mind, which is why we try to calibrate to some estate in the first place. It’s kind of like when you’re calibrating a machine, you’re kind of getting an idea to gauge, um, the limits and the capabilities of machine. This is essentially what we’re doing with people, we’re getting idea of how they respond to certain situations. And by having this kind of information, it makes us a lot more effective when it comes to communicating with that person. And also doing change work especially if you’re very involved in NLP and you like this kind of stuff and you want to work with people, no one had to calibrate to some assets, how to calibrate to some assays can be very useful in detecting what could cause that person to change the most easily and the most efficiently. So guys, that’s all I have for you today. For today’s video, make sure you look out for number four in the NLP Techniques series, checking the ecology of a pattern. That’s right next week it is going down