Accessing Positive Intention

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Now when negative behaviors occur naturally, we tend to think of them as coming from a bad intention. And we wouldn’t be wrong in thinking this way, because most psychotherapists operate from that assumption as well. Now, what makes NLP truly unique is that we assume that problematic emotion or behaviors serve some useful point some useful purpose at one point. Now to find access or to create a positive intention allows us to adopt a more effective reaction to the behavior in that which produces it. So the first thing you want to do when accessing positive intention is identify a problem or difficulty. Now this can work. This works especially well for problems that form on the surface, they look like to serve no useful purpose. So for example, it could be something as simple as nail biting if there’s someone that bison nail a lot, something that doesn’t really serve any useful purpose, this would be a really good example for that. Now afterwards, now, after you identified the problem with difficulty, you want to find the part that’s responsible. So this is how you want to phrase it, you say there’s some part of you that produced a response to behavior. And as you allow yourself to become more aware of that part of you some thought emotional belief, you can begin to ask that part what is sought to do a positive value to you? And what did you seek to accomplish and points to it? Next, you want to continue asking that positive intention question. Sometimes you have to get the outcome of the outcome, or get the Met outcome of that outcome until you can find that positive intention. So you want to keep running this several times until you find an objective, that seems positive. So you may you may get an outcome for something that you’re doing, but you got to find the outcome of that outcome is what we’re saying. So you kind of stacking it until you hit something that’s positive, and really just kind of makes sense as to why you’re doing that behavior. Like what’s the positive intent behind it.